Can I give an adopted child my surname?
Assalam alaykum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh.
I am considering adopting a child. I'm conscious of the rule against naming the kid after your surname. It's not permissible.
But I have come to know of infants whose birth certificates were not entirely filled out, or the mother named them not after themselves or named them after a drug or didn't name them correctly whatsoever (i.e. I discovered that a little girl up for adoption and her title was"Baby Girl" as her entire name). Certainly if I were to face a situation like that I could offer her my surname?
Also, I can't produce breast milk, therefore if I were to adopt a boy/girl, how can I make them mahram? Is there any other way? Please tell me there is any way.
Wa alaykum assalam wa rahmat Allah wa barakatuh.
I hope you are well.
The brief answer is that it's permissible for you to give your surname to a kid that you adopt. Additionally, there are a few ways that you may take to make the kid a mahram for you personally if he or she is less than two years old.
Adoption In Islam:
Adoption, meaning accepting legal responsibility for the upbringing of a young child, is permissible in Islam. There's a a lot of confusion about this topic.
The Sacred Law prohibits the pre-Islamic (Jahili) practice of “tabanni.” That is when a person "adopts" a kid and basically changes the lineage of the adopted kid.
The child isn't known as the son or daughter of her or his father, but instead, as the offspring of the adopter. This is an issue because the Shari`a intends to preserve lineage as far as you can. Discarding one's lineage and carrying somebody else as one's father is ingratitude for the blessing of parentage.
There's also the point of a number of rulings of this Shari`a relies on lineage -- like the impermissibility of marrying particular people, financial duties, inheritance, apparel, seclusion, etc.. The jahili practice sabotaged every one of these rulings and duties. For this the Messenger of Allah said,"Whoever knowingly claims that somebody aside from his actual father is his father, Paradise is prohibited for him" (Bukhari)
Lineage gives one a feeling of belonging to a greater community, and Allah has created us as tribes and sub-tribes so we could have great relationship with each other (Sura al-Hujarat 49:13). Experts on trauma mentions that using strong relationships with individuals, helps prevent trauma set in when people undergo challenging scenarios.
For all these, and other wisdoms, Allah abolished the pre-Islamic kind of adoption stating,"Address them as [being descendants of their] fathers; that's fairer in the sight of Allah." (Sura al-Ahzab 33:5). (Sayis, Tafsir Ayat al-Ahkam)
A surname isn't a sign of a person's lineage. A lot of time it's an old family name, or the title of a distant ancestor, or even the husbands surname title to get a woman who changes her name.
Giving an adopted kid your surname isn't tantamount to changing his lineage -- particularly in the event that you make it obvious to him that he's adopted. Doing this when it will make lawful procedures simpler makes sense too.
Becoming A Child’s Mahram
You only need to be worried here in case the child is of the opposite gender to you. Additionally, before puberty there's usually no need to worry this situation.
Should you adopt a boy, and he's less than 24 lunar months old either you or one of you sisters could breastfeed him, and he'll become a mahram for both of you. When it's a girl, one of the husband's sisters may breastfeed her to get exactly the same ruling.
It is likely to lactate without getting pregnant. There are numerous hormone regimens that you may take to produce this result. Any kid who drinks that milk could become into a mahram for you. (Al-Midani, Al-Lubab)
If that is not feasible, then you need to talk a trusted local scholar as there are other ways which to cause this ruling but they need detail.
Allah Most High knows best.
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May the peace, blessings, and mercy of Allah be with you and your family Sister Hiba.